
Confidence is a survival mechanism, not a thriving mechanism. In this episode, I reveal why chasing confidence keeps you stuck and how true unwavering confidence comes from the paradox of not needing it—by learning to feel all your emotions safely.
In this episode, we explore:
- Why confidence is designed to block you, not help you thrive
- The four core reasons people want confidence (and why they don’t actually need it)
- Why wanting confidence actually means wanting to avoid emotions
- The distinction between confidence and competency (and which actually improves performance)
- Why chasing confidence to be authentic kills authenticity
- How true self-love means loving ALL parts, including the unconfident ones
- The paradox: you become unwaveringly confident when you stop needing confidence
Actionable Takeaways:
- Ask yourself: “What feeling am I afraid of?” when you crave confidence
- Stop trying to increase confidence—start making it safe to feel all emotions
- Love the unconfident parts instead of requiring yourself to be different
When you catch yourself wanting more confidence, what feeling are you avoiding? Share in our community.
If this shifted how you see confidence, share it with someone who chases confidence but stays stuck.
And remember: may you be happy and do good, and may you be happy doing good.
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About Me: I’m Dr. Filipe Rocha, founder of StarSoul School. I’m a Medical Doctor who has studied and practiced over 50 different modalities—from neuroscience and psychology to trauma healing, hypnotherapy, and coaching, to spirituality and Buddhism. But my real wisdom comes from walking this path myself. My mission is to help you walk your journey of healing, growth, and transformation with more success, ease, and joy.
What’s Talk the Walk? This isn’t just another personal development podcast. I’m not walking my talk—I’m talking my walk. Everything I share comes from my own deep inner exploration and the integrated approach I’ve developed combining personal wisdom with proven modalities from around the world.
💬 Join the conversation: What feeling are you avoiding when you want more confidence? What would change if you could feel all your feelings safely? Drop a comment—I’d love to hear your reflections.
🙏 Help this mission grow: If this shifted how you see confidence, please subscribe and share it with someone who chases confidence but stays stuck. Help them discover the paradox.


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